Compassion vs. Hatred

I can’t get this news story out of my mind. A little girl, three years old, was left by her mother with a male friend. First the mother told reporters she had left the child with the friend for a month but would visit once a week. The mother’s family had been told the little girl and her mother were staying with friends in another city, and that they were fine. We don’t know where the mom really was.

Police found the child sitting in a large trash bag, feet, hands and mouth duct taped “because she was too noisy.” She was covered in feces.

There were other details reported too horrific to print. Neighbors of the man who was supposed to be taking care of the little girl were shocked. They said things like, “That’s a shame.” “That’s too bad.” “A child should never have to go through something like that.” To me, those responses sound cold, just an automatic, expected response.

I must admit, my first response was not at all Christ-like. I ranted and raged against the evil mother who cared so little for her child’s welfare. I wanted to punch the guy that was supposed to be taking care of her.

The reporter was talking to a professional counselor, asking how anyone could be so evil to a child. The reporter’s answer put me back on the right way of thinking. The counselor said many times, through counseling, people like this can change. They usually treat children this way because it is how they have been treated. It is their sense of normal. When they receive counseling and realize that this is not normal, nor is it right, they realize they didn’t like being treated that way when they were children, and don’t want to continue the pattern.

I read a poster many years ago that said, “Children learn what they live.” It is true. I don’t think any parent wants to be abusive. When you are raised with anger and bitterness, it becomes a part of you. If you don’t know you can change, you won’t. Unless someone shows you how to be a better parent, you are doomed to repeat what you’ve grown up with.

I am thankful that Jesus saved my soul, and through His love and the teaching and preaching of His word, I learned not to be an abusive parent. These people who mistreated this little girl, and all who mistreat their children, need the Lord’s help to change the pattern. They need help, guidance, compassion, and forgiveness.

Satan’s Bid For Your Child Part 3

Books

Many of you do not know what your kids are reading. You have not checked. You have no idea, so I will have to tell you. I’m going to open a few of the books. I will not say the bad words. I’ll just spell them. Kay’s note: I won’t spell them; I’ll just allude to the fact there is cursing in the noted passaged.

NEW WORLDS AHEAD is used in the seventh grade. Included is a story, “The stray Kitten” by Richard Wright. Page 54, “Kill that D- thing.” Page 55, “I had my first triumph over my father. I had made him believe that I had taken his words literally. He could not punish me now without risking his authority. I was happy because I had at last found a way to throw my criticism of him into his face.” Another story in the book is called, “The Blue Serge Suit.” Page 414, “D- asthma.” Page 416, the D word is used twice. That’s seventh grade reading!

VOICES IN LITERATURE(I) is used in grade nine. “Shoe Shine” by Jerome Weidman, page 21: God’s name is taken in vain. “The Long Night” by Lowell Blanton, page 84: the D word is used. “The Invisible Aborigine” by Eugene Burdick, page 205: the D word is used Page 209, the D- word is used. On page 235 parental authority is questioned. “The Sissy from Anaconda,” page 352:  the same expletive is used, then hell as a curse word.

Ladies and gentlemen, not only is this bad language and bad English, it is not culture! It is neither refined nor scholarly! We are a little above this kind of crudeness. Not only does it prick our religious and spiritual convictions, it pricks our culture!

We are just getting started. Because you won’t check on your children’s required reading, I have to read it for you. THEMES IN LITERATURE is used in the tenth grade. “The Colt” by Wallace Stegner, page 127: uses God’s name as a curse twice.

Before you start criticizing me, and before you say that our kids are not having to read stuff like this, remember, I have the poll from this morning. Before some of you school teachers say, “Well, I teach school and that’s not going on,” don’t forget, you go to just one school. I have the poll! I’m going to give you the goods in a minute, so don’t shut your ears. I’m trying to help you and your kids.

Also in “The Colt,” page 128: the D word is used again. In “Mateo Falcone” by Merimee, the father kills his own son. WESTERN LITERATURE: THEMES AND WRITERS, “The Out Station” by W. Somerset Maugham, page 83: someone is told to go to the place where the devil will spend eternity, the D word is used three times, and God’s name is taken in vain once. There are fifteen counts of profanity and murder in this one story on page 83.

In “On the Sidewalk Bleeding” by Evan Hunger, pages 105-111, a gang member is stabbed and the whole story describes how he lays on the sidewalk and bleeds to death. OF MICE AND MEN by John Steinbeck has been required reading in numbers of schools in this area. Page 24: Hell is used as a curse word, and God’s name is used a curse word. (My Bible says that you are not to take the name of Lord God in vain). Not one time are my children going to sit in school and hear anybody curse my God anymore! You don’t have to let yours to that either. Page 48: God’s name is again used as a curse word. Page 56: Someone is called the son of a prostitute. (The actual word is used. I won’t even spell the word or make lines for it. Adults know what that word is, and kids don’t need to know.) On page 83 a brothel is mentioned in its more commonly known name; Jesus’s name is used as a curse word; and on page 94, God’s name is taken in vain again and someone is called a son of a female dog in heat.

SOUL ON ICE by Eldridge Cleaver, page 159 uses the N word for black people and sons of female dogs in heat.

You can sit there in anger if you want to, but I’m trying to help your kids! I’m doing it at the risk of your becoming angry. Yet, if I lose half the deacon board and two-thirds of the members, there’s one thing I’m going to do: I will try to save your kids for Jesus’ sake. I’m not mad at anybody but the devil, but I’m weary of this crowd of left-wingers, sex perverts, and Sweden-oriented teachers who are taking over our schools and ruining our kids. If you are not one of those, I am not talking about you, but there are thousands of them. It’s getting worse all the time. This kind of garbage is what they are requiring our kids to read. I haven’t even started yet really. I wish I had time to read you much more. Let’s go further.

SOUL ON ICE, page 160: “I will not be free until the day I can have a white woman in my bed and a white man minds his own business.” I can’t even read all of this.

THE GAPES OF WRATH by John Steinbeck, published by Viking Press, Page 27 has two curse words in close proximity. You’re not checking, are you? Listen to me! You ought to say, “My child is not going to be subject to this anymore!” Kay’s note: we have become so inured to this kind of language in the books we read as adults, in the stuff we watch on television and in movies, that we ignore it in our kids’ movies. I remember watching the movie “The Bad News Bears” when it first came out, starring Jodie Foster and Tatum O’Neil when they were kids. There were little kids cursing in that movie. I was appalled. I think it’s time for parents who care about their kids to contact Disney and Hollywood and demand that they stop putting trash in movies that are supposed be for children! Family movies ought not to have that trash in them either.

You say, “Brother Hyles, that’s not taking place here.” Oh? Well, maybe I have the goods on you. This morning 230 of our high schoolers were asked this question: Have you been asked to read such books as OF MICE AND ME, SOUL ON ICE, THE GRAPES OF WRATH, CATCHER IN THE RYE, or any other book that includes cursing? “Yes” was the answer given by 35% of our young people. You didn’t know that, did you? Here is the sad thing: seventy-eight said they’d been asked to read such literature, and 51 of them did so. This means two out of three of our best kids didn’t have the courage enough to say no. Do you know why they didn’t? In many cases, they have moms and dads at home who wouldn’t back them up. There are teenagers in this room tonight who come to me weeping because they want to do what is right but their parents want them to be “accepted” in the public high school or junior high school.

Another note from Kay: I know our kids will hear bad language anyway, but if we allow it in our homes they will think we approve of it. If we approve of it, they will not be bothered by it and may use the same language themselves. What is okay in the world should not neccessarily be okay in our homes.

Also, any time we say “God” and we’re not talking to Him or about Him, we’re using His name in vain (without a purpose, or to no avail), so OMG, for a Christian should end with the G being “goodness,” or “gracious,” not God.

What else is the devil teaching your child?

Next segment to be posted Wednesday, July 29, 2015.

Children At Play–a new poem by me

Johnny and Judy got up one day,

The day started in the usual way;

They got up, got dressed, and went out to play.

Their mom called them for breakfast;

They sat down to pray—

They bowed their heads and closed their eyes,

But neither of them knew what to say.

Punishment or Discipline?

A football player was recently accused of child abuse because he switched his four-year-old son. The media and psychologists seem to be of the opinion that you should just talk to your children to get them to behave or be respectful. LOOK AT OUR YOUTH TODAY, EXPERTS AND TELL ME HOW THAT’S WORKING! Have you ever tried to reason with a four-year-old? Not going to happen. They are children.

Tell, me, experts–how do you teach a toddler not to hit his brother or sister? As soon as you arent’ looking they’re going to hit. You can talk until your teeth fall out and that child will do as he pleases BECAUSE THERE ARE NO CONSEQUENCES. When the child goes to school and the teacher gives an assignment, that child may sit in the classroom and refuse to do anything. He knows the teacher can’t make him do anything. His or her hands are tied by government mandate and the ridiculous notion that kids will always do what is right and reasonable.

I do not believe in, nor advocate child abuse, and we don’t have all of the facts in this case. Was the four-year-old continually trying to do something that could cause him injury, in spite of repeated requests not do engage in this behavior? How do you stop a child from running out into the street with heavy traffic?

Punishment is done in anger. Discipline is done in love. My children were spanked after we had a conversation about what they had done and why discipline was required. They knew we never took pleasure in spanking, and spanking was always done in self-control. If we were angry we would walk away and think about the situation and how best to handle it. Discipline would be administered once we had calmed down. When the crying was over our children were hugged, told they were loved, and asked if they understood why they had to be spanked or had a privilege taken away.

People say there is no instruction manual for raising children, but there is. It has been around for centuries. it is the Bible, the Word of God, and when used properly, it yields good results, albeit sometimes later in life. Following are the verses that talk about children. By the way, I use the KJV because it sticks to the original meaning of the original manuscripts. Words evolve and change their meanings over time. If you think you can’t understand the KJV, read it slowly to get the context. Often the verse explains itself by using different words in the same sentence to convey the correct meaning. If you still have trouble I would suggest Vine’s or Strong’s Concordance, both of which are available online and in most downloadable Bible programs.

First of all, I would suggest reading (and studying) the entire book of Proverbs. It is filled with contrasts between good sons and wicked,foolish, and evil sons (generic for people). There are 31 chapters of Proverbs, one for each day of the month. (I know some months have less than 31 days.)

I would also recommend reading Psalm 119:9, 11, Jeremiah 17:9, and Genesis 6:5. Genesis 6:5 explains why God destroyed the earth by flood and had Noah build an ark.

I have taught Sunday school for many years and even the children of church-going parents act up and disobey. Trust me, talking is futile. And I have NEVER seen a toddler who would listen to talking,nor a pre-teen. Kids will test boundaries. They need to know there are some.

Life comes with consequences. No consequences while growing up means the child won’t be able to cope with consequences in the workplace either wihen he grows up. Intelligence has nothing to do with it.

When we were in Germany the military had their own programming on TV. One day there was a slot where an interviewer was talking to four or five children on a playground. The interviewing was asking them if they believed their parents loved them. The first interviewees all said no, because there were no rules and they could do whatever they wanted. They felt their parents didn’t care about them or what they did. The last little girl was on a swing. Her answer was different. She said she knew absolutely that her parents loved her. The interviewer asked what made her so sure. Her reply: “Because my parents have rules for me and sometimes I get a spanking when I disobey. They do that because they love me and care what kind of person I grow up to be.”

We have two grown children. Our son was, for the most part, our compliant child. Our daughter was the wild, rebellious one who didn’t care what kind of discipline she received, she was going to do whatever she pleased. For most of her adult life (thus far), her life has been a train wreck, but she always knew she could talk to us. She always knew we loved her. She has turned her life around, given herself back to God, and both of our kids tell us they are glad they had us for parents. I hear the same scenario from other parents around the globe who believe in discipline (not punishment).

One more thing: threatening is a waste of time. Say what you mean; mean what you say. Don’t threaten to spank, ground, etc. if you don’t mean it. They know when you are lying. Also, be consistent. I always had a hard time remembering what I said so I made a chart: backtalk gets this consequence; definace gets this; disrespect gets this: etc. The kids knew what to expect because it was posted. It kept me from losing control, and it kept me consistent.