How To Develop Serious Health Problems

Disclaimer: not all health problems are the result of the things mentioned in this post, but the things mentioned here will cause health issues at some point in your life, if you don’t take the remedy. Even if you do take the remedy, it may not heal the health issue.

Steps to ulcers, heart disease, mental illness, and a host of other diseases:

1) Keep an account of every slight, every wrong ever done to you, and by whom

2) Dwell on them. Let them fester.

3) Be sure to pay back in kind.

4) Never let anyone who has slighted you forget how they hurt you.

5) Keep people at arms length; don’t let them get too close. Don’t open yourself up to hurt.

6) Gossip. Be sure to tell everyone you know how so-and-so treated you, even if it was years ago.

7) Don’t just give the facts when gossiping: expand the details to make them more juicy. Remember, you’re feeding them verbal poison.

8) Never let yourself forgive.

9) Don’t let yourself take any responsibility for what happened. Nothing is ever your fault.

10) Give yourself regular pity parties. You deserve it. You owe it to yourself. Don’t forget to worry over everything that might go wrong, or that may happen in the future. You never know when the past will come back to bite you.

Two of my relatives engaged in these behaviors. My mom could hold a grudge with the best of them. Sometimes she would get to thinking about things her older sister had done to her when they were growing up. Or she would start thinking about some spats she’d had with her father. She would fret and stew about it for days, work herself into a rage, and go on a three-day rampage, daring any of us in our family to get in her way. My mother was also a world-class worrier. She felt responsible for anything that ever went wrong in the world or in our family, although aloud she blamed everyone else. One night while she was at work she noticed, as she was putting up ice cream, that the ice cream freezers had been unplugged. She wasn’t the one who had cleaned them so she wasn’t the one who had unplugged them. Nevertheless, she worried herself into a heart attack, afraid she’d lose her job. She never left the hospital. She had three subsequent strokes, the last one shortly after her 64th birthday.

My aunt (my father’s sister and the wife of my mother’s brother) hated my mother and me because of the fights my parents used to have before they divorced. She hated everyone except her husand. She tolerated her kids, but really wasn’t too thrilled with them either. She died in a nursing home of Alzheimer’s.

Personal Responsibility

Our society today seems to have lost the concept of personal responsibility. Nothing is ever our fault. If so and so hadn’t said or done, we wouldn’t have. . .  This is not a new problem. Way back in the garden of Eden, God had told Adam and Eve not  to eat of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  But the serpent, Lucifer, who had been kicked out of heaven for rebelling against God, decided to challenge God’s authority.

He saw Eve eyeing the tree and he taunted her. I can picture him saying something like, “Look at this fruit, Eve. Isn’t it lovely? Why don’t you take a bite?”

She answered, “The Lord God said not to touch it or eat it, lest we die.”

“Oh,” said the sly serpent. “You will not surely die. God is holding out on you. He knows that this fruit will make you wise. You will know everything God knows. You will be like Him.”

First of all, Eve added to what God had said. When we repeat what someone says we need to be careful to say it correctly, or tell the listener that we believe this is what was said. Otherwise we are guilty of lying, even if we didn’t mean to.

The Bible tells us that Eve caved and ate the forbidden fruit, and gave some to her husband, Adam. I believe Adam ate the fruit because he believed God when He said eating the fruit would bring forth death. If Eve was going to die then he was going to die with her. He loved his wife.

Secondly, their eyes were opened and they were suddenly aware of their nakedness, their bodies. It was the first time they felt embarassament and shame. They hid themselves. They knew God would come looking for them so they made coverings for themselves made of fig leaves. But sin requires the shedding of blood for the remission of sins. So God came in the cool of the day and called Adam and Eve. After a time they answered and told God they were hiding.

“Why are you hiding?” God asked. He knew the answer but it was important for them to confess their sin.

“Because we were naked and we hid ourselves.”

“Who told you you were naked? Did you eat of the tree of which I told you not to eat?” They answered that they had.

God killed an animal to make coverings for the couple. Scripture does not say what kind of animal but Jesus was the sacrificial lamb for our sins. Common belief among Bible scholars is that it was a lamb. It was the first time Adam and Eve had seen death.

Next, they were driven from the garden which was then barred by angels with flaming swords. Then God destroyed the tree of life which would have allowed man to live forever. Now their bodies would age, but worse than that, they would know sin and their spirits would slowly die in carnality.

How did they handle their situation? They blamed each other. Eve said, “It was the serpent…he beguiled me.” In other words, “I couldn’t help it. What he said made so much sense, and Lord, I thought you were being unfair.”

Adam blamed Eve. “It was that woman you gave me.” Suddenly he was not speaking of her in terms of endearment; he was speaking in irritation. She was ‘that woman.’ He was also blaming God: ‘the woman YOU gave me.’

Did playing the blame game solve their problem, ease their situation? No. It disrupted their relationship with each other and with God.

Taking personal responsibility for our actions takes maturity and courage. It isn’t always easy, but it is the right thing to do and breeds trust. No one trusts a liar.