What Is Love?

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We use the word “love” for everything.  We love animals.  We love pizza and ice cream.  We love coffee or tea, etc.  So what do we really mean when we use this word?  The song lyrics equate love with sex.  They are not the same thing.

Love is the most over-used word in the English language.  But it’s part of our communication.  Most people seem to think love is a tool we use to get what we want.  I’ll love you if you will do such and such for me.  That is not love; it’s manipulation.  Ask yourself:  Do you like to be manipulated? If not, then why would you do that someone you claim to love?

I Corinthians 13:4-8a gives a description of love, but the King James Bible calls it charity.  Here is what the Bible says love is:  it is patient; gentle, kind, easily pleased, is NOT envious, is NOT boastful (bragging), does NOT vaunt itself (“Hey, look at me!”), is NOT conceited or stuck-up, does NOT flaunt its authority or position.  Love does NOT behave itself in an unseemly, inappropriate manner (women are not to wear clothing that deliberately causes others to lust after them; neither are men, by the way).

Love does NOT demand its own way, is not easily provoked to anger or gossip, and thinks no evil.

On the flip side, love rejoices in truth, rejects lying, bears all things (life comes with trouble built in so just deal with it, give it God, forgive others, try to learn something from the difficulty, and move on), believes all things (good things), hopes all things, and endures all things.

The last phrase of the passage sums it all up:  LOVE (genuine love not based on what’s in it for me) never fails.  Next week I’ll share my personal  testimony that proves this principle.