It is unfortunate that in our society today, it takes at least two incomes to support a family. That means absentee parents, and children who are left in the care of an older sibling or just to themselves. Often we cannot afford to pay someone to care for our children while they are alone and we are at work.
Then we have single-parent families, which usually means that single parent has almost no time for the children. The children then are left feeling unimportant and unloved. They may seek affection and caring from other sources, which can lead to very severe problems.
I made some typos in part one of this series. Prayer and church attendance are NOT enough to ensure the safety of our children. NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES, WE MUST FIND WAYS TO WATCH OVER AND PROTECT THEM. Here are a few suggestions:
- Sit down with your child and go over some safety rules about not trusting ANYONE too much. A family member, close friend, neighbor, teacher, anyone has the potential of molesting your child, regardless of gender. We live in a perverted society. It even happens in church groups because no one is perfect, not even Christians. And not everyone who goes to church is a Christian. Some people are just religious. Some people go to church because they are depressed and want to feel better. Some people go to church just because they were raised to do so. There are many other reasons, but you get the picture.
- Make sure you have a good relationship with your child/children so that they feel they can come to you if someone does mistreat them. Also, know your child well enough to know if they are making it up to get attention, or if they are lying because they are mad at someone and wants to get them in trouble. But ALWAYS be willing to listen. Be willing to check out the accusation, even if you think that person would never do such a thing. We generally trust too easily, too quickly. We never know what’s in another person’s mind. Be sure to emphasize to your child that no matter what threat they have been given to keep them quiet, it is a scare tactic and that it is your job to protect them. Make sure the child understands the importance of NOT BEING AFRAID to tell you about it if does happen, regardless of who the perpetrator is.
- Give your child/children instructions on what to do if someone does molest or hurt them in any way: a neighbor or friend to contact, how to get in touch with you while you are at work. If someone molests them they need to dial 9-1-1 at the first opportunity and give as much detail as possible to the authorities and have the authorities contact you at work.
- If your child/children are home alone while you are at work, have them stay inside, play quietly, no loud TV or music, and lock the door, and keep it locked until you return home.
- Teach them what to do in case of fire.
- Check out your child’s friends and families. Don’t let them stay with just anyone. It would be better if the child’s friends came to your house so you can check on them, and know what’s going on. When you visit other families, check on your child often. You never know what goes on behind closed doors, with an adult or another child. Most children are molested by someone in the family, or close to the family. Don’t let yourself wear blinders. I know from personal experience that a child who has been molested often carries the emotional scars for the rest of their lives and their lives are filled with bad decisions, resentment, and bitterness that only God can heal.