Waiting For The Next Hospital Run

How are in-laws supposed to feel when, as an outside addition to the family, a loved one develops a health condition that has the whole family helping that loved one when he/she is home, and running back and forth to the hospital when that person is not well enough to be home?

My energy is sapped; my ambition to do anything is gone. I have no interest in reading, writing, or much of anything else. I want to do things that allow my mind to be numb: play solitaire, watch TV programs that don’t require much attention. Reruns are good. But I shouldn’t be the one feeling this way. I need to be strong for my husband, and the others who spend much more energy and time than I in taking care of this person. I want to cry but it’s not fair to the immediate family.

It is a source of joy to me that I am allowed and able to contribute to her care when she is home, and am able to take care of her house when she’s in the hospital. I have no regrets except that (guilt, guilt, guilt) my life is on hold because I’m doing for her.

Lord, I hope my tears are not for myself.

Everything Wrong in Life is Not God’s Fault

In the beginning. . . God created a garden that had every fruit tree, every berry bush, every food-producing plant. He decorated the garden with flowers. He was preparing a wonderland for the crown of His creation: man. He provided a mist from the ground to water everything. There were streams of fresh water for refreshment. There were rivers teeming with all kinds of fish. There were woodland animals and fowls in the air, a cocophany of sound to delight the ears. And when God had finished His earthly paradise, He pronounced it good and created two people to populate it and care for it. Everything was blissful and filled with wonder and joy–until. . .

One day a serpent arrived, cunning and crafty, a sly, cunning conman. His specialty was creating doubt about God and His word. When God left Adam and Eve in the garden there was only one rule they had to follow: just one: “Thou mayest eat of every tree in the garden; but of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, which is planted in the middle of the garden, ye shall not eat. For in the day that ye eat thereof ye shall surely die.”

Adam and Eve had intended to obey. They loved God and He loved them. They had everything they could possibly want, including a close relationship with their Creator, who came to the garden every day and talked with them. But when the serpent arrived, he approached Eve first. He started the conversation. He looked her in the eye and said, “Did God tell you that you could eat of any tree in the garden?” He already knew the answer but he wanted to see what Eve would say. Eve replied, “We may eat of every tree in the garden, except for the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God said if we could neither eat of that tree, nor touch it, lest we die.”

I can almost hear that serpent’s laugh. “You shall not surely die. God knows that when you eat of that fruit, you will then know everything He knows. You will know good from evil. You will be like God.” Then he slithered away to watch the outcome of the little drama he started.

Adam believed God when He said they would die if they ate of that tree. Eve gave some of the fruit to Adam and they both ate. Adam (I believe) knew his wife was going to die and he didn’t want to be left alone. He loved her. So he ate the fruit with her. Once they ate the fruit they became aware of their nakedness and they sewed fig leaves to cover themselves. This was before they began having children. They were ashamed of their nakedness, even though there was no one else to see except themselves.

God came in the cool of the evening and cried out for them. Finally Adam answered, and said they were hiding. “Why are you hiding?” God asked. God knew, but it is important for us to confess our sins before we can receive forgiveness. “Because we were naked we hid ourselves,” Adam said.

God killed an animal, the first death in God’s creation, in order to make clothing of skins for Adam and Eve. Maybe He had to kill two animals; we don’t know. God first turned to the serpent and said, “Because you have done this (caused Eve to doubt God’s word, thus creating eternal havoc on earth), you are cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life, and I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between her seed and thy seed,it shall bruise they head and thou shalt bruise his heel.” Then He looked at Eve and said, “And I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” This was the penalty for allowing herself to be deceived. It was not just for Eve, but for all women thereafter, because, regardless of intelligence and rationale, women are more easily influenced by their emotions than men.

Then God turned to Adam and said, “Because thou hast hearkened (listened) to your wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; thorns also and thistles shall it ring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat eat the herb of the field; in the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, til thou return unto the ground;for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.”

Every illness, every trial, every problem we have in this life, is a result of our sin nature, which we are all born with, because of the first man and woman. God didn’t cause it; man did. But God has the antidote, the solution, the love, care, compassion, grace, and mercy to take care of all of it. He first provided it in the garden when He made the clothing of animal skins for Adam and Eve. He continuallly showed his grace and mercy throughout the Old Testament to the people who chose to love, worship and obey Him. As Creator, does He not have the right to bless those who love Him? How many of us show the same love and compassion to children outside our family as we do to our own children?

God sent His only BEGOTTEN son to take our punishment, and die on a cruel cross so that we could have access to God once more, and have fellowship with our Creator. God made a way. What we do with it is our decision. If everything was perfect we would all be so puffed up with ourselves we would see no need of a Savior and we would not acknowledge God. He allows us to have trouble so we will turn to Him for help. He is the one who has the all the answers, and He is the one most able to comfort us and strengthen us in times of trouble.

Family Illness

I want to apologize for not being as diligent lately in keeping up with my blog. Due to a family illness that requires much of my attention, and trying to keep up with my writing schedule so I don’t get lazy, I haven’t had as much time. Once again, I am in a position to be a big help to someone else and feel that this should be my primary focus right now. I will continue to blog, so please don’t leave me. I will try to post on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, until the situation improves.

Please don’t give up on me, or stop visiting. I need all the support I can get right now.

Everything written by me on this blog is copyright protected so please be courteous and don’t try to pirate anything. Do feel free to reblog as long as you link back to this site and note that I am the author, and that the work is not to be sold or copied for distribution.

I will be posting some excerpts of my work. Please also feel free to visit my author website: google.com/+AletaDye. I will also try to post on Twitter a few times a week.

I am currently reading a book titled The Pilot’s Wife. The author is Anita Shreve. There is some language I don’t appreciate, but it is not  much, and the book is a heart-wrenching novel about what happens to a pilot’s family when the plane goes down and specualtion follows. I would give it a four star rating.

#BeWowWednesday–My First Contribution

It really is a WOW! Wednesday. Actually, there are two wows (more than that but these two stand out). The first WOW was Sunday when the Petrick family was visiting our church. Mr. Petrick is an evangelist who helps small churches (like ours). He has been to our church before and I love to hear him preach. He has a great sense of humor and has the gift of storytelling to make the message come alive. Also, his sons have wonderful voices and they sing harmony.

Today’s WOW belongs to Holly Lisle. If I could afford to take her course on How To Think Sideways, I’d do it in a heartbeat. She has many free short courses and she deserves to have people enroll in the longer courses, like this one. She puts a LOT of time and effort into everything she does. She must be a super pro at time management because she writes, designs and builds her website, helps other writers, creates courses to help writers, manages a blog and her site, and is constantly updating and upgrading her site. She is amazing. I have already taken a couple of her classes and have several of her course books on writing.

This particular course teaches writers how to get the left and right brains to work together instead of fighting each other. (Boy, do I ever need that one!) I have a perfectionist brain when it comes to myself, and it keeps me from finishing what I start because I want to fix the flaws right away. Alas, I will have to study her books for now and download the worksheets. Still, that’s better than nothing. And her website is a place for writers to interact with each other (if they can find the time).

So if you are a struggling writer, or want to improve your craft, check out Holly Lisle’s How To Think Sideways website. May also be listed as Writer’s Bootcamp.

Broose the Moose on the Loose – New Children’s Book from Jemsbooks!

Jem Spina writes fabulous, fun children’s books. Absolutely had to reblog this.


I am happy to announce my new children’s book. Book illustrated and cover created by my husband, John Spina. Copyrighted by Janice Spina and John Spina

Broose the Moose on the Loose from Jemsbooks! He joins my other five children’s books and is also written in rhyme with life lessons. Children will learn a valuable lesson about friendship and being kind to others.

imageBroose the Moose on the Loose is a sad moose who has no friends until he meets a young boy. Read what happens when Broose meets a boy with the same name as he.

There is a moose.

His name is Broose!

Keep a lookout for Broose!

He is now on the loose!

Broose is available on


Amazon paperback


Coming soon to Barnes & Noble and other bookstores online.

Thank you for stopping by. I hope you will check out Broose on links above. Your children…

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…Susan Toy outlines 10 Ways to Kill Your Writing…Part Two…

Part Two of advice from an accomplished author who used to work for a publisher. She knows what writers experience and she knows how to help us not shoot ourselves in our feet. Originally posted on seumasgallacher.com.

Seumas Gallacher


…I’m delighted to run a five-days consecutive series of posts from my terrific pal, Author, Susan Toy, for every author to enjoy and prob’ly learn lots from… here’s PART TWO :

10 Ways to Kill Your Writing

This 5-part article is from a talk I gave at the Calgary Public Library Writers’ Weekend Feb. 4, 2012.

Thanks to all of you for reading this series that is very kindly being hosted by the ONE, the ONLY, SEUMAS GALLACHER!

Part 2

  1. Copy others and don’t search for and develop your own voice

When I first began writing creatively, I had already enjoyed a long career in bookselling and as a sales rep for publishers. During that time, I got to meet everyone – and I mean everyone!

Gail Bowen was one author I worked with who became a friend and I wanted to be just like her – writing mysteries…

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…Susan Toy outlines 10 Ways to Kill Your Writing… PART ONE…

This information is so valuable I felt it had to be reblogged. I am also posting it on my author website on google plus.

Seumas Gallacher


…I’m delighted to run a five-days consecutive series of posts from my terrific pal, Author, Susan Toy, for every author to enjoy and prob’ly learn lots from… here’s PART ONE :

10 Ways to Kill Your Writing

This 5-part article is from a talk I gave at the Calgary Public Library Writers’ Weekend Feb. 4, 2012.

Thanks to all of you for reading this series that is very kindly being hosted by the ONE, the ONLY, SEUMAS GALLACHER!

Part 1

Since you’re taking time to read this series, and if you promise to stick with me right to the end, you will receive a very special gift, because I’ve been asked to talk about . . . 10 Ways to Kill Your Writing . . . and for today only, your very special gift includes 3 bonus ways!

First watch this video . . . Inside the Writer’s Mind

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